Pause before you speak
Make the trade-off visible before the words are irreversible.
This is a structured reflection, not a command. Your answers stay on the page, and safety concerns override every score.
A score cannot know your relationship
The result is a bounded direction based on the answers you choose. It cannot assess another person, guarantee an outcome, or replace support when disclosure could create danger.
The most useful question is often not simply whether to tell, but what purpose the disclosure serves and whether the relationship can hold an honest answer.
Three ways the words can begin
01“Tell them—with room for their answer.”
02“Wait and prepare the timing, boundary, and support first.”
03“Do not use a message template when disclosure could expose you to harm or retaliation.”
Can I trust the result?
Use it as a way to inspect your own answers, not as professional advice or a prediction.
What happens if I select a safety concern?
The scoring stops and the tool recommends safety planning or qualified local support instead of a disclosure message.